Dating Techniques for Gay and Lesbian Singles

September 6, 2011 By Leave a Comment
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Believe it or not, relationships can maintain a spark even after many years, especially when matched on a dating site like Gay Parship. There are several tips for being happy in a relationship. The first is simple; pretend you just met one another. Whether you have been together for six years or six months, spend time every day acting as if you just began dating. Unfortunately, over time, couples stop asking the get-to-know-you questions that are common to daters.

Another strategy is to help your partner feel more secure in your love. This will allow him or her to express feelings and ideas without the fear of being judged. This includes giving compliments, praising actions, or simply giving a hug. Small gestures go a long way and make the best statements.

Additionally, boost your compatibility with your partner by focusing on similarities and looking at the differences as being appealing. Compatibility can be built by taking turns planning activities to share with one another. If you are unsatisfied with your partner’s activity choice, do not complain, as it will be your turn next.

Additional gay dating tips include never placing blame on your partner, especially with topics of discussion that are tender. When an issue arises, solve the problem together while holding hands or touching in some manner.

Finally, prepare for time alone. Even in the best relationships, people need time alone. Do not take this personally or make one another feel guilty. Sometimes people need to regroup emotionally. Ensure you tell one another when you plan to check out and check back in.

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Don?t be gay, be a man

July 11, 2011 By Leave a Comment
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It’s better to be a man, than a man-woman. Being a gay has never seen acceptance in the society. Even though the number of people embracing this form of sexuality is increasing, gayism is still view with a lot of doubts. Is it a sexuality orientation? Is it a mental problem? Is it a modern-day image makeover?

There are plenty of gay men who wanted to become straight. Their orientation was by accident and influenced by the times. There have been many instances when gay men felt that they became gay through some external influences.

Many people think of the concept of gay like this …To become gay is not to become a cult symbol. To become gay is lose manhood and be called a ‘’fag-it’’. To be a man requires a lot of effort. To become a gay does need much effort. This is the sad reality for gay people.

Gay people are seen as un-manly men seeking refuge for their sexual dysfunctions. Gay men are seen in society as men who cannot satisfy a woman. Gay men need to climb an uphill task in answering their critics.

Now the gay wave is slowly receding. To become a gay is no more ‘’cool’’. To become a man is. Now is the sign when men should remain men. The world needs more real men. There is a serious shortage of such people. We need to get back our times of yore, when men used to be valorous as valor can be.

 

 

 

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Meeting New People

May 21, 2011 By Leave a Comment

 

It can be difficult to meet new people, whether looking for friends or people to date. Some choose to participate in church activities with shared beliefs, groups of people who enjoy similar activities, or visit bars and clubs to associate with those in the area. Many individuals who have children, busy lifestyles, or demanding jobs might find it difficult to make time to go out and participate in these activities. Others might elect to join a chat room or an online dating or friendship website. Many of these sites offer searches by zip code to find locals to meet up with at public locations.

If looking for a new friend or relationship, the Internet can be a great resource. Many dating sites offer the option to search for potential gay, transgender, lesbian, or bisexual partners, which allows members to be up front about exactly what type of person they seek. Typically the sites allow users to set up a detailed profile, including hobbies, photos, and interests. Some provide compatibility tests to allow individuals to connect based on these shared interests. After setting up a profile, members of the site can communicate with one another via email, and get to know each other in a friendly manner. After a connection has been established, these people may choose to meet in person.

When meeting in person, it’s always smart to choose a public and safe location. After the first few dates, it is usually easier to gauge the intuition and go from there. Many relationships and marriages start online, and it can be a fun way to get to know multiple people at one’s own pace.

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Gay and Lesbian Relationships

May 12, 2011 By Leave a Comment
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In the past century, there has been a great push toward equal rights for homosexual couples. In 2006, a study was performed that showed approximately 1/5 of the population has had homosexual feelings toward another person, so it is clearly a huge part of modern society. Some religious sects have beliefs that homosexuality is immoral, while others are embracing the lifestyle and fighting for the rights. Some of these rights include the ability to marry, obtain jobs, adopt children, and enlist in the military. Many larger companies offer health benefits to same-sex partners of employees at equal prices to those in heterosexual relationships.

There are groups of people who work hard to protect the rights and safety of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender individuals. There are laws in place in many of the states in America that restrict marriage between same-sex couples, instead calling them civil unions. However, with activist groups pushing for changes, there have been propositions added to local ballots that allow these unions to be recognized as marriages, and thus allowing these couples the same rights as married opposite-sex couples. Many early theorists discussed homosexuality long before the practice was recognized, such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung.

There are some preconceived ideas about those involved in the homosexual lifestyle, but many choose to be involved in committed relationships and live very similarly to conservative heterosexual couples. As the laws change, many of these notions are being washed away and gay and lesbian couples are receiving the same rights and liberties as any other couple.

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Queer Theory and Culture

April 13, 2011 By Leave a Comment

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Queer theory started it’s emergence in the mid-1990′s.  It was born out of the fields of study of LGBT and feminism.  It is a critical theory used in the critiquing of literary texts.  Like feminism, queer theory challenges the notion that gender is part of the essential self.  It also challenges the socially constructed definitions of sexual acts and identities.  Teresa de Lauretis is credited with coining the term ‘queer theory’.

Many queer theorists set out to deconstruct via literary discourse issues pertaining to gender and sexuality.  The prominent queer theorist is Michael Warner.  Other prominent queer theorists include  Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, Judith Butler, Adrienne Rich and Diana Fuss.

The main position of queer theory is that identities are not fixed, but are fluid.  Gender and sexual identity are not easily categorized because they are made of of many varying components.  Queer theory basically challenges many labels that are put upon people in society, whatever the persons sexuality may be.

Debates continue amongst queer theorist as to whether or not sexual orientation is a natural and essential part of humans, or if it is a social construct, and therefore subject to change.  For example, over time the term ‘homosexuality’ has evolved in meaning.  This is due to the changing nature in the cultural discourse.  What was once a term for something illegal is not the term for a sexuality.

Queer theory has allowed the interpretation of written text from a deconstructive perspective.  It challenges the societal norms relating to gender and sexuality and will continue to do so, even through the natural evolution of the literary culture.

 

 

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Exploring Your Dating Options

April 9, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Dating can be such a tricky subject. For some people, meeting new people and expanding their social circles is easy. For others, it seems to be an endless array of bad dates and lonely nights.

However, there are many options you can explore so you aren’t left home every night wondering where all the good guys and gals have gone. One of the most effective means of meeting new people is online dating.

Nowadays, with busy schedules and demanding jobs, online dating is a great resource for single people. Here are some benefits to online dating you may not have been aware of:

  1. Meet people who share your beliefs. Finding someone you are compatible with is a tough thing to do! Add in finding someone who shares your religious beliefs as well, and suddenly it seems like all the odds are stacked against you. Some online dating sites will cater specifically to Christian dating or working professionals.
  2. It’s completely safe. If you play it smart, online dating can be very safe. In fact, it’s actually safer than meeting some random guy in a bar. Just be sure to make that first meeting in a public place!
  3. You will meet new and interesting people. You will be able to meet some very wonderful people when you get out of your comfort zone and explore online dating. In fact, you’ll meet people you would never run into with your normal social circles.

It’s time to explore new dating options! Don’t be left behind. Give online dating a try. You never know, you may meet your soul mate!

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Resources for LGBTQ People and Supporters

April 4, 2011 By Leave a Comment

There are several organizations to support lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) people and those supporting them and the issues important to them.

One of the most recognizable organizations is “The Trevor Project”, which is a national organization specializing in suicide and crisis counseling for LGBTQ youth. The organization provides a phone hotline as well as online resources and live chats for those contemplating suicide. The web site is www.trevorproject.com

The “It Gets Better Project” shows teens that if they can just get through those difficult teenage years, a positive and enriching life awaits them as a LGBTQ person. User-created videos by those whose lives have truly gotten better over time and from allies who support them have been seen worldwide. The web site is www.itgetsbetter.org.

Another group aimed at youth is the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), whose focus is to ensure safe schools for all people, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity/expression at national and regional levels. The group seeks to make all levels of education a positive experience for all LGBTQ people as they build their future. The national web site is www.glsen.org

Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) promotes respect of LGBTQ individuals and provides support for their families and friends. Often, family members attend PFLAG meetings to hear the stories of those with a shared experience, regardless of their level of support or understanding of their family member’s sexual orientation or gender identity. Like GLSEN, it is a national organization with regional chapters. The national web site is www.pflag.org

 

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Homosexuality in Ancient Peru

February 28, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Locked away from the public for decades, being viewed only by elite social scientists in Peru, ancient erotic ceramics reveal a piece of Peruvian history. During pre-Colombian times, tens of thousands of these types of pottery were created.

A large majority of them depict heterosexual anal intercourse, but there are some that also depict sexual relations between women and sexual relations between men as well.

In the 1570′s many of these artifacts were destroyed in order to stop the progression of sodomy, masturbation and trial marriage. Sexual relations were to be only for creating children and women were not to engage in sexual pleasure. These strict laws were created because of the shock that the Spanish experienced when they first found the tribes. Virginity was not treasured at all, unless the virgins were specifically being saved for the Gods. A virgin was looked at in a negative way, and so women would give themselves to the first man that they could.

The Spanish determined to change the way that these societies lived, began the segregation of men and women in public.  Anyone caught not living as they should would be given 100 lashes. Under the Inquisition, homosexuals could be burned at the stake. It took a great deal of effort for the Spanish to change the way that the natives had been living for quite some time.

These erotic artifacts of ancient Peru are in the Larco Museum in Lima, Peru. Reluctantly, they have been made available to some foerign researchers from the US and Europe. The artifacts cover a span of 800 years of pre-Colobian Andean cultures. The Moche and the Chimu are the most popular ones. If these artifacts became more redily available to additional researchers, who knows what could be discovered about Peru’s ancient past.

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Same Sex Relationships in Ancient Times

February 23, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Reserved for the middle class and aristocracy, same sex relationships were considered mainstream in ancient Greece. At the height of the empire, Greece had an all homosexual army, whose personnel were referred to as Lambda Warriors, also known as the Sacred Band of Thebes. They would often take their young male lovers into battle with them.  They were said to fight fiercely because of their great love for each other. During this time, most homosexual relationships were between adult males and adolescent youths.

Unlike the Western society of today, sexual orientation was not an identifier in society. Sexual relationships were defined by roles in the relationship.  One member was active and the other was passive. The active partner was considered to be dominate, have higher social status and be the adult. The passive partner was considered to be submissive, young and of lower-social standing.

When it came to these relationships of pederasty, it was common for the youth to with hold and take time before giving into the adult males desire for them until the youth was certain that the adult male was willing to be his mentor, cared for him affectionately and did not just want him sexually. Adult males could only woo the youths when they were between the ages of 12 and 17.  Once the youth gained his body hair, he was considered a man.  Younger then 12 was not considered appropriate.

Scholars cannot agree on whether or not this practice was wide spread or if it was limited only to the aristocracy of the time. Either way, they certainly left their mark in history, leaving behind some records of their dealings with each other, and changing the way the military was in a nation.



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Gay Discrimination

February 19, 2011 By Leave a Comment

There is still a lot of discrimination today dealing with homosexuality. Although homosexuals are protected by law in the workplace, discrimination is still an issue. There are some ways you can deal with this. You will need to know what kind of behaviors are considered harassment.

If you are being harassed or discriminated against, you should talk to a friend or family member about it. It will help to talk about it and they will help you decide if it is actually discrimination or if it was just an opinion. If you feel like you are being discriminated against, you will want to write down everything such as who was harassing you, the date in which they were doing so, the time, and the place. This will help you later on if you decide to do something about it.

Do some research and find out what legal protections there are in your area. You can either search online or call the labor department in your state. There are also some homosexual organizations that will give you information and can also set you up with a lawyer. You will want a lawyer who is familiar with gay discrimination issues. You will need to provide as much information and documentation as you can so you have a better chance at winning your case.

Research what kind of behaviors are actually discrimination and do something about it. Discrimination can include losing your job or promotion or making less money that someone who has the same qualifications as you. Harassment is not necessarily discrimination, but you will probably want to document it anyway. It can include rude jokes, comments or insults. There can also be threats and you will want to write these down also and tell them to your lawyer.

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